relationship

relationship .:: and the mutuality of what it takes to high vibe that shit. 

it gets confusing and convoluted sometimes like partnership whether platonic or romantic is this easy, sparkly aligned glowing walk in the park.  and oh my gawd what a walk in the park it is WHEN IT IS. and it ain’t that all the time. 

and social media clouds and confuses the idea a bit, in my opinion.   listen, while social media can absolutely house some space for vulnerability and good, good times, it’s still at a distance, a drive by hit of dopamine {or cortisol}. there’s no eyeball to eyeball, ear to ear, hand to hand, shoulder to shoulder holdin of the shit. that space is the nitty gritty. the space where relationship is fuckin built. 

relationship is reciprocity. and no it is not equally balanced at any given moment. one person is holding while one is spilling and then it’s returned. it may be the next day the next week the next year but it’s returned. 

this showing up and being interested. and that takes work and effort and yes sometimes or a lot of times that work is easy because we love said person/thing/space so damn much.  and other days it’s hard and lil awkward or uncomfortable. and yet we know deep in our bones the connection is alive {or when it’s not} and some times the channel just needs a lil clearin and so we value it and we value ourselves and we work and we effort and we show up for it.  and that part, that’s brave and courageous. and I know this because I’ve witnessed it, i have embraced it too and am still learning to trust my gut and absolutely learning from other beautiful {and not so beautiful} space holders how to be a better friend, person, partner, lifer to myself and to others. 

i think this is true for all relationship … is there reciprocal energy flowing and not in a tit-for-tat way, but in a lifting vibration, elevating the universe, nurturing flowing kinda way.  who are those people places and things open and willing to do the deep dive dance of life.  and holy shit, when we in it {wo}man we in it ♥️

this does not mean i don’t care for or resonate with all the things {ok well lots of things maybe not all} bc I do. but this is not the same thing as holding relationship, friendship, partnership. those are BUILT safe space. it’s not an entitlement because we know someone or share a world view. it’s effort (and plenty of ease) to do the damn work of showing up.  for each other. 

and again this for me extends thru muh life, my bebes for instance… they don’t owe me their words and their hearts bc I birthed them. i want them to choose to share with me because i choose to show up and see them. i want to nurture that relationship just like i want to nurture my friendships and my partnerships and listen i stretch this shit into all parts of my life, the connect with my dogs and my plants and to nature , to my yoga practice and the person i meet on the street, to myself, to this life. what is the energy exchange and the vibration being elevated or drained bc it’s never nothing.  and autocorrecting and beaconing to the heart line work of true + brutiful connection to one’s self and to others is always available when we’re willing to take a hard look and do the damn work ♥️ we aren’t entitled to it. the world doesn’t owe us. we owe ourselves, we owe the world this work of meaningful purposeful intentional BOUNDARIED spaces of giving and receiving the love and support we need. 

and shew. i hold your time and your heart with so much respect and reverence and i appreciate you choosing to share a lil time and space with mine too 🙏